For those who care for individuals with Alzheimer’s, dementia, etc., trying to get a moment alone can be challenging. Frequently, fear and dementia go hand in hand. One such fear is that of being left alone when their caregiver is no longer within sight. This is referred to as “shadowing”, and the distress they exhibit as a result can increase as time – and the disease – progresses.

If you have a loved one who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or dementia, the best option where both of you are concerned could be memory care in Chipley, TX.

In the meantime, let’s explore ways you can handle your loved one’s fear of being alone (for those diagnosed with dementia) – a.k.a. shadowing.

Clarify the Period of Separation

It may not mean much to your loved one if you tell them you’re only going to be gone for “a little while”. In people with Alzheimer’s/dementia, their sense of time is frequently diminished. Instead, for brief separations, try setting a kitchen timer or a similar type of timing device. However long you plan to be away, set the timer for that amount of time. Let your loved one hold onto the timer so they can watch and explain you’ll be back when it goes off. (Of course, you have to make sure you’re back when it goes off, or the consequences could be severe.)

Avoid Conflict

If, as a reaction to possibly being left alone, your loved one becomes combative or angry, it’s best to avoid conflict whenever possible. Switch to a different topic if you can. Don’t try correcting them but, rather, validate their feelings with an appropriate response.

Incorporate Distractions

If you’re only going to be away for a very short period of time, try assigning something to your loved one that will keep them busy while you’re gone: i.e., folding napkins, filing papers, sorting silverware (or something similar that can be sorted). Make sure it’s of interest to your loved one and safe.

Make a Recording

As you’re doing your day-to-day chores, reading aloud, singing, cooking, or what have you, make a video of yourself. Play it for your loved one and watch their reaction. If you’re only going to be away from them for a short period of time, playing this may help them miss you a little less.

Include Others in Your Loved One’s Circle

By introducing others to the circle of trust your loved one views as safe, you may be able to offer yourself a respite. If this third person can be present when you leave the room, it will offer you the time you might need to run to the store, go to the bathroom, grab something to eat, or just take a breather.

Reasons to Turn to a Memory Care Program

Though your sense of devotion and responsibility may prompt you to take care of your loved one with dementia, the time will come when the burden will be far too much. Sooner than later, look into a memory care program. The following benefits are offered by communities that provide this service: